“It’s a man.
It’s just his life.”
This is what my husband said to me.
He’s a good man, but it’s not good.
“I said, ‘You know what?
I’m going to tell you what I know.
I’m not going to keep you waiting’.”
His wife was in a position of power, he said.
She had to tell him to stop.
But the truth was, it wasn’t going to be easy.
“I have two daughters, and I know how hard it is for my husband,” he said, shaking his head.
“But I don’t think I’m the only one who’s been raped in my life.
I’ve been raped by my friends.
I know what it feels like.”
I was at a party, and the whole place was filled with men.
And I was sitting there with my friends, and one guy comes up to me and says, ‘Oh, I’m so sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you’.
“I thought, Oh, I’ve got no right to be angry with him.”
The next day, I called the police.
I don’t know how I got to this point, but I knew that if I was going to stay silent, I had to speak out.
I knew I was not going away, but there was a lot I wanted to say.
So I went to the police station, and there was nothing I could do.
I was told that they were going to put me in a room and take me to the hospital.
I knew I could not do anything about it.
I had no right.
The police then made me stand up and walk towards them.
They put me on a stretcher, and took me to a room.
I wasn’t told what I was supposed to do.
They said, You’re a woman, we’re going to take care of you.
The next morning, I went into the hospital, and they had a doctor and two nurses, who took me back to the room and left.
I was very angry.
I didn`t know how to react.
I said to them, I was raped.
They didn`T believe me.
I went back to my house and cried.
They didn`ts even give me a name.
It was just like they had taken me away from my family and put me here.
“The next thing I knew, I started to panic, and my husband had called the ambulance.
The ambulance arrived, and two doctors came in.
They told me that I was in the emergency room.
They told me to come in and tell them everything, and if I don`t tell them what happened, I`ll die.”
The first doctor told me I was an alcoholic, and that I had been drinking alcohol for months.
The second doctor told us that I`d never been raped.
I said to him, I don,t remember what happened.
They asked if I had any witnesses.
I don`,t know what they were asking.
I told them, They`re not telling me what happened because they want to see my daughter.
They`ll take her away.
He went away, and he`s been gone for three months.
But there was no follow up.
I just said, I told you, I did not tell them.
I thought that if the police were going on with their investigation, they would know.
Then they asked if they could give me some blood.
They took me in the back of the ambulance, and then I was taken to a clinic.
The first doctor was really angry.
He said, This is what you`ve been doing for the past three months, and you haven`t told us anything.
They said, Well, this is what we are doing, because you`re an alcoholic.
The next doctor was even more angry.
They went away.
I kept saying, I want to tell the police, I have been drinking for three years.
I`m not drunk.
They kept saying no, we don`ts want to hear about it, and this was the end.
I kept asking them, Why don`s they want me to be a witness?
I said, What are you saying?
They said that if you don`tray, you`ll be arrested.
I went back and asked them, Are you going to give me your blood?
And they said, No.
I got scared.
I asked them if I could go with them.
They put me back on the stretcher.
I told them I had never been sexually assaulted.
They never told me anything.
I think that was the most terrifying thing.
They let me go, but when I got back to school, they put me at another police station.
They just kept asking me questions.
I`m still trying to find out what happened to me after I`ve gone through this.
I want the police to know what happened